To change, always start with, a tiny, small, easy to do, thought/ action, process. Part 2.
Welcome back, if ya’ read part 1 last week,
If ya’ didn’t then........ go read that first
So, continuing from last week, ask yourself, think about, these three questions/steps.
Step 1: What behaviour change do I want? (Turn targeted behaviour changes into easy to achieve thoughts and actions. Be really specific).
"I'll be more patient for ten minutes when I'm driving today".
Step 2: How can I make the thought and action easy to do? (Through simple thinking and doing. Simplicity changes behaviour).
"I'll do it while driving to work".
Step 3: My thoughts trigger my actions, my actions become my behaviour. (Your behaviour, what you do, becomes your life).
Think, "I'll drive calmly for the next ten minutes".
Then freakin 'well do it.
To initiate change you have to consciously create new/better thought - triggers.
Because, most thought - triggers are habitual and automatic. This means that aren't worth jack s--t
Others you must personally 'create', as part of a, do-able -by-you, system.
I call it:
“The future of you,……….. decided…….. by……… you”.
“Behaviour is always triggered by (a) thought(s). New better thoughts cause new/better actions - behaviours.
And you can- and should - take charge of your thoughts. It ain't Rocket Science, it's simple self/thought control.
Simple but extremely elegant and effective.
Below are some of the many, commonly peddled, crap laden, non-effective, expert -speak, approaches to behaviour change that, in reality don't work well ……….if at all.
#1. Provide information to people and hope that it leads to behaviour change.
#2. Give people a big goal and then ask them to focus on applying, tear inducing, motivation and willpower.
#3. Guide people through (complex) psychological stages? until they are ready to change.
#4. Wrongly assume that all behaviours are the result of external influences.
#5. Use persuasion techniques, such as scarcity, as the starting point for 'their' solution. (In other words, scare the bleedin’ s--t out of people, by making them think that there’s a shortage of what they need).
So then in all honesty, what I’ve slapped? together, in this superbly super, post, was not totally 'origined' in my mind.
It’s a re-working of someone else’s 'take' on the business of helping people become better through using one, simple, do-able, two -step process.
Step1. A thought. Step 2. An act.
Gotta' tell ya' something really relevant to this post.
I bought a book many years ago from Reader's Digest.
It's entitled, "The Origins of Everyday Things". The index, A to Z, has 35 pages with 300 entries on each page.
So that's 10,500 'things'.
Each entry gives factual information about where every item had it's origin.
In 'A' there's Acrylic, which originally appeared in in 1951.
In 'Z' the zip fastener had it's origin in 1923.
Each original has also been, thought about, improved on and developed since it's original form.
This development and improvement came, step by step, from the thoughts (Step 1) and actions (Step 2.) by the minds of those who thought they could make it better.
What about this then? "When do you think margarine first appeared in the world"?
Answer at end of post.
So then, get this, use this, start with this, grow with this approach:
↓ ↓ ↓ ↓ ↓ ↓
One press up, a five minute jog, a two minute chocolate avoidance session, eat one less, gotta' have, gunge -filled, health destroying, fast food fix, write just one paragraph of that book you've been promising yourself you'll start, for the last ten years. I did this, I've now nearly finished my third book, honest.
“It ain’t where y’ start it where y’ finish. And ya’ better not finish at the start”. Me.
Wanna’ learn more?
Wanna’ become a better you?
Course yer do......... unless you're a few chips short of a lump of chipboard.
Read lots more of my, fantastically fun, helpful, thought -changing, behaviour-changing, people - changing, insightful and carefully researched, posts.
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Here to help you, help yerself,
Phil (The Mind Man)
And, Thought Master and Mentor at:
(With help and guidance from several world - renowned thought teachers).
Here's the margarine answer.
(In 1867, Napoleon the Third, launched a competition to find a substitute for butter. A French, chemist's assistant worked at the task. He called it margarine.
He made the stuff from, mixed animal organs, suet (that's a solid fat from around animal kidneys, warm milk, minced pig's stomach and bicarbonate of soda.
In 1874 100,000 tonnes, (that's Metric Tons) of the stuff was sold).
Good job other people, since 1874, decided, to improve on the original.
P. S. I have written extensively in all my posts on (almost all) the important aspects of how your thoughts are the most bleedin' powerful 'tools for a better life' that you own.
So go read some more of them because they will really get ya' fired up about this thinking and doing stuff and how it effects your life.
So......just like wot I have done:
You gotta' know this stuff to become.....a better thinker......a better doer and a better person with a........... better life.
Not overnight though 'cause that ain't possible.