Discussion, argument or just plain stoopidity?
Hi, it’s afternoon here,
On 14 and 21 July my posts covered or even uncovered,the early stages of what in past times was called… courtship.
I think it should be, caughtship.
These days it’s called dating.
Posts on 28 July and 2 August contain my take on, nagging.
A sport involving just one contestant.
This week I continue the verbal conflict element of male and female relationships with......
ARGUING. (9,370,000 Google results).
A sport involving two competitors?
Arguing can be either rational or irrational.
I've studied a bucket/swimming pool full of, confusing, mind - numbing, expert- speak about this on Google.
Below are the bits that made the most sense to me.
"Rational" and "irrational" are adjectives that describe the logical or illogical consistency of an argument”.
“An argument is rational if it is structured in such a way that if its premises are true”.
“Rational thinking can be defined as a thinking process which is based on reason and logic”
“An argument is irrational when a person is, thinking, talking, or acting without the inclusion of rationality".
“Irrational thinking is a thinking process where the individual completely disregards reason and logic in favour of emotion".
“Rational comes from the Latin word rationalis, meaning reasonable or logical. If you're rational, you say things based on logic, as opposed to impulse or whimsy. The original meaning in English was of someone endowed with the ability to reason”.
That’s all of us…….yep?
But not so, it seems.
Ever been in an argument that was reasonable or rational?
Course you haven’t!
Here’s what Phil (The Mind Man) thinks.
Surgeons, policemen, lawyers, doctors, accountants, counsellors, architects, all professionals, have to always be thinking without the interference of, messed up, irrational emotions or feelings.
They would be of no freakin' use to their clients if their thinking were messed up by irrational emotions and feelings.
When professional people of all kinds are involved in their work they very rarely become emotionally or feelingly (unrationally) involved.
A surgeon working on their bits who is not thinking calmly and rationally?
A paramedic who is feeling sorry for the victim and is cryin their eyes out.
A dentist who’s worrying about the financial situation of his practice while he/she's figuring out which teeth to pull.
All these professionals have learned how to control their feelings and their emotions so that they can focus all their, calm, rational, controlled, thoughts on the job in hand.
They’ve learned how to think, sensibly, practically and calmly.
I believe that they carry this skill over into their personal life too.
Pity most of us ordinary folk don’t follow their example.
"That's been one of my mantras - focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it's worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains". Steve Jobs
The reason most people don’t think is because it’s too much like hard work. (Thank you Henry).
Thinking is the most underdeveloped human ability.
Thinking mixed with feeling…………. ain’t proper thinking.
Thinking mixed with emotions………. ain’t proper thinking.
Thinking mixed with both……. feelings and …….emotions totally cocks up what 'proper thinking' should be about.
T + E + F = T A V C
Thought + Emotion + Feelings = Thinking And Verbal Chaos.
Most people don’t think rationally, sensibly or calmly most ........or………any of the time.
Because, they never bothered to learn how to.
(Part 2 next week).
It'll be good,
Phil (The Mind Man)
Thought Master and Mentor
Here at www.thoughtistry.com
P.S. Any of my other superbly researched and written posts will get you started on the road to proper thinking.
No…No….No ……….I know.