"You are free when you have no anxious thoughts about what will happen to you". Vernon Howard.
"What you think and what you do determines what becomes of you". Me
Hello and welcome,
Very few of us are consciously aware of how and what we are thinking. We operate on auto- pilot 99.9 % of the time. You habitual thinking dictates your actions and your feelings. You, and me, are doing this a creature of habit. (Well I don’t any more).
Until you take the time and effort to become habitually aware of your thoughts you will continue to have little or no control of what happens in your life! Habitual thoughts that we are mostly unaware of use up our mental energy.
I've been 'there' and got three of the tee shirts.
I used to think that my mind ‘had a mind of its’ own. That I could in no way change what I was thinking and for many, many years I suffered physical and mental distress as a result. I was a very anxious, shy, unself-confident teenager. In fact it took me until my late twenties to realise that it was ‘all in my mind/thoughts. Because it was in my mind, it was in my life. So I decided to observe my thoughts and my responses to them.
Within six months I was beginning to see the light. I spent the next twenty years studying human performance, how we all operate, why we do what we do. Just as every car engine in the world works in the same way, with identical ‘systems’ then every person on this planet also uses the same system. We think, we do and what we do creates our life!
What I have learned is this!
I have learned, over time, that the best way to ‘take stock of’, to be consciously aware of what you are thinking, to consciously try to remember the last ten thoughts you had. Being conscious simply means 'thinking about what you are thinking.
Over the years I have become used to habitually monitoring my thoughts. I now do it without having to ‘make’ myself do it. I’m doing it now as I write this post.
I know the thoughts that are going through my mind and they are helping me to write information that will be of value to those people who read this post.
You develop, as I did, the skill of monitoring your thoughts by;
1. Monitoring/noting/being more aware of your thinking on a regular basis.
2. Asking yourself, ”Is what I am thinking being of any help to me?
3. Noting whether your thoughts are positive or negative.
4. Taking notice of whether you act on any of these thoughts or not.
5. Accepting whether the actions you take help you in your life or make things worse.
6. Wondering if it would be better for you if you didn’t think some of these thoughts.
7. Asking yourself if you are able to choose or change your thoughts.
8. Reviewing if you have ever changed your mind/thoughts about anything.
(You must have done so lots of times in the past. This is how you know that you can change your mind/thoughts if you really want to. If you can change your mind about what you want for tea or what car you'll buy next, you can do the same for anything).
9. Recalling if you found it difficult to change your mind about anything (number 8) or not.
10. Asking yourself, ”Am I in control of my thoughts?
Your turn to lurn, sorry, learn.
As soon as you finish reading this post look back at the list above and DO at least one of the items on the list straight away for ten minutes. Then, from today, keep trying to add another of the items every day until you get in the habit, as I have, of monitoring your thoughts and what you feel and do in response to them!
Everything we each do or feel, begins as a thought. The source of your thoughts is your mind. That’s its job, to produce thoughts. Your mind is a ‘thought factory’. The thoughts your mind produces are based on the content of your mind. If your mind is full of junk information, like, “All rich people are scheming, selfish scumbags”, which isn’t true, that, “It‘s impossible for me to be happy”, etc, etc ,etc. Then your junk thoughts will become your junk actions and your life will be full of junk!
What you ‘have in your life’ depends entirely on what information you have stored in your mind to think with, and then do, in response. Your thinking and your doing are the one system that we can each take control of. Nobody else can do it for you! If your life isn’t what you would like it to be then any necessary change(s) can only be made by you!
Well that’s enough for now. Don’t just forget about this post. Print it out and read through it once a week for a few weeks. You’ll understand the process better by then.
P.S. If you want to find out more about how I can help you to become more self-empowered in your life take a look back at any of my earlier posts or go on to some of the one's that come after this one.