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"It seems slow, when you wait. It seems fast, when you are afraid. It seems long, when you are sad. It seems short, when you are happy. It seems endless, when you are in pain and, when you are bored. Time can only be determined by your thoughts and your mental condition, not by clocks!" Anon.

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I really am here to help.  It is taking me more time than even I expected to get things right. BUT I am still here and I am not stressed, hyped -up or disillusioned by how long it is actually taking me. This is  because of  one, really, really, really, yes, really important thing I have learned over the years. What have I learned?

I learned to 'get real' about time!

It  took me time to understand about time! Once you do 'think real' about time you can use it to our benefit instead of deluding, stressing and  'hard timing' yourself.

What I mean is this. If you think, "I'll paint the kitchen walls" and you 'think' it will take you about a week to do and then after two weeks the job isn't finished you are likely to get frustrated, angry, be a bit 'down, feel sorry that you started the $&*£*!" job.

If, the job took, let's say, three weeks for you to actually complete. After the first week had passed you would have become disillusioned, impatient, and possibly be thinking of 'jacking it all in'.

The real way to get real about time

I  have a formula that I  use to avoid any such situation. When I think of doing something I mentally multiply the time by four. Then when I finish the task before the  time I have mentally allowed myself, I feel great. I 'pat myself on the back' and have completed the task without getting stressed out. In every case  I have always completed any  task within my 'thinking- real' time frame. It works!

"An unhurried sense of time is in itself a form of wealth". Bonnie Friedman

'Thinking-real' about time (times it by four) will help you to do whatever you think of doing with much greater calmness, efficiency and pleasure.

Until you think and do my 'multiply by four' suggestion you will find that:

1). Whatever you do will always take much longer to complete than you first think.

2). During the process you will 'give yourself a hard time'. Sorry about the pun!

3). You are very likely to 'give up' in despair.

4). You'll stop what you are doing and think, "I'll finish tomorrow" and never re-start the finishing

Time is only your friend when  you are in control of it 'in your mind'.

"Oh! do not attack me with your watch. a watch is always too fast or too slow. I cannot be dictated to by a watch". Jane Austen, (In her book Mansfield Park),

Time waits for no man, (or woman or child) we can't alter it, we can't control it!  We can only learn how to alter our thoughts about it to be able to use of it in ways that benefit us.


"Regret for wasted time is, more wasted time". Mason Cooley

Time to say  time, for this Post. So,  thanks for your time both now and in the future!

Beneficially yours, always, (now that's a long time)!

Phil Soffé

Thought Master and Mentor

P. S. I planned, (thought/expected/hoped)  it would take) half an hour to write this post. So, as always, I used my 'multiply by four 'formula.  It actually took me one and a half hours. So I finished it within my 'reality check' time limit and got it written without getting, stressed, etc!

P. P. S. If you have learned something of value from this or any of my other Posts please tell your friends, family, or even people you don't like about Those you don't like will probably be grateful that you did tell them. Your friends and family will probably love you even more. Thanks in advance.


About philinspain

A self - help addict for the last forty years. I have spent the last five years seeking for, and finding, the essential, central and most effective tools that empower personal change. My mission is to, inform serve, help and teach others what I know. Why? Because, you can't use what you don't know. So let me tell you what you need to know through this blog. Albert Einstein knows the truth, but............. it ain't Rocket Science.
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